This was my first women's retreat, as well as my first time to Lake Tahoe. Well, I take that back. I've been to Lake Tahoe, but in a "passing through" kind of way. I've been there for a concert, which was at a hotel, and once when my daughter was looking for a wedding site. Both times I really didn't get to experience Lake Tahoe as I did this weekend.
I am going to attempt to put into words my experience...so much I want to share.
I had no idea what to expect of the retreat. I had no expectations, so all was welcomed with open arms. Upon arriving I was in awe over how beautiful the lake was. We had the most spectacular view from our window...breathtaking.
Shortly after checking in, my roommate and I searched for familiar faces. After dinner, we gathered for our first session with Cindi: Immeasurable More of His Love. She spoke of the Lord's love for us.
Several things stood out for me...
The Lord pursues us as a husband who longs for our love. For your Maker is your husband-the Lord Almighty is His name-the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; He is called the God of all the earth. Isaiah 53:5
As a hero who always comes through. The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:17-18
As a knight who comes to our rescue. I love you, God— you make me strong. God is bedrock under my feet, the castle in which I live, my rescuing knight. Psalm 18:1 (The Message)
For He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son He loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins. Colossians 1:13-14
As a prince who ransomed our heart.“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness." Jeremiah 31:3
I'll be honest, this concept has been difficult for me to grasp. As I live in the flesh, to understand the Lord as my husband, hero, knight, or prince, has only been visible to me in a physical sense. I want to touch it, taste it, feel it. My heart yearns for all the above. Cindi said, "We haven't lost the romance with God, we just haven't found it yet." That's it...I simply haven't found it! Or perhaps, I'm looking for it in all the wrong places.
After the session we spilt into small groups. For the first time, in a long time, I was meeting with women whom I've never met. I've grown accustomed to groups since I've attended Grace Church Recovery and Step Study, (sharing is not a problem for me). As a matter of fact, ten women from my Step and Recovery group were at the retreat, with one being a part of my small group. It's here in this small group we were presented with questions to answer. One question in particular stood out for me...
From tonight's session, which characteristic of God's pursuing love most resonates with your heart and why?
Your husband who longs for your love.
Your hero who always comes through.
Your valiant knight who rushes to your rescue.
Your prince who ransomed your heart.
My answer...My heart longs for all those things!
The following morning I was up at 4:30 were I spent sometime in His word. It was still dark and the stars were as bright as can be. It was quiet and still, even with my loss of hearing, I'm certain I could hear a pin drop. After breakfast we started our second session: Immeasurably More of His Strength and Hope
Because of my time in Recovery and Step Studies, it was this session I could relate to the most. Cindi spoke of how we can experience His strength and hope during difficult times. It's through our trials God transforms us. "It's through our struggles that we're strengthened, through our pain that we're polished, and it's through our difficulties that we can discover a deeper intimacy with God."
"Our deserts can be doorways to discover God." I love this statement!
As I've journeyed through Recovery and Step this year, it's been painful and freeing all at the same time. So often in traditional therapy, my feelings were justified. It's okay for me to feel the way I do, to respond the way I do, terrible things happened to me to shape me into who I am. I was told to just discard those painful memories/relationships, guard your heart, move on. I was never given the tools to move on, to change my story into something good. I am able to do that now through Recovery and Step. I'm realizing how the Lord recycles those memories. Not to hold me there, but to pass again through a series of changes; to adapt to a new use (Websters definition)...His use.
Looking back on my past...
I feel the pain, anger, and resentment towards those who sinned against me.
I feel the shame, guilt, and pain for those I've sinned against.
I experience Godly sorrow. A sorrow like no other...
For it is here I see the hurt I've inflicted upon others through the Lord's eyes.
I've deeply hurt many of His children.
It's here, I see those who have hurt me and wonder...
what pain have they experienced in their life that has caused them to guard their heart, to lash out, to defend, to protect themselves in such ways that they hurt others. I pray for them.
It's here, I repent...I long to reconcile...I am redeemed...I am transformed.
It's here, I have come to understand that my story is written by God, for His purpose, for His Glory!
That means, even in my darkest times, the Lord is taking me to a place He wants me to be. Out of my suffering, His glory will be revealed.
It's here, I seek His face, I ask...
Lord, show me your will, your way, the truth, the light!
Change my heart to love like you!
Cindi spoke of the many deserts (times when we feel alone) women face:
Singleness
Marriage-when there is a lack of connection
Struggles with infertility
Feeling alone as a parent
Our spiritual life
Our difficulties and trials
Emotional pain we don't feel we can share
A restlessness to reach a dream
She told us we can embrace the "alone times," for God meets us there.
After this session we broke off for some "alone time" with the Lord. We were given some scripture (Hosea 2) and questions to guide us. We were told to find a rock that represents immeasurable pain that we've personally gone through, one only each of us can determine its significance.
It was during this "alone time,"
I had my first, most spectacular date...
with my King
my husband
my hero
my knight
my prince
Hosea 2, is something I am very familiar with. This passage was first shared with me by the leader and my sponsor in Recovery.
I sat on a rock overlooking the lake and read Hosea 2.
As I read, I was reminded of my past and how I constantly went after the desires of MY heart, my idols to fulfill my need for love, happiness, peace, security, hope. It's here I was stripped naked as the Lord blocked my paths with thorn bushes, for the purpose of seeing Him more clearly.
3Otherwise I will strip her naked and make her as bare as on the day she was born; I will make her like a desert, turn her into a parched land, and slay her with thirst.
6Therefore I will block her path with thorn bushes; I will wall her in so that she cannot find her way.
I tried many times to return to my lovers (idols). It was here He took everything from me. I mean everything...home, money, children, marriage...
It was here he exposed my sinful ways...The selfish desires of my heart.
8She has not acknowledged that I was the one
who gave her the grain, the new wine and oil,
who lavished on her the silver and gold—
which they used for Baal.
9 “Therefore I will take away my grain when it ripens,
and my new wine when it is ready.
I will take back my wool and my linen,
intended to cover her naked body.
10 So now I will expose her lewdness
before the eyes of her lovers;
no one will take her out of my hands.
Then it happened....
14 "Therefore I am now going to allure her; I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her."
While perched upon my rock, I became acutely aware of sounds and sights all around me. The waves as they gently clapped over the rocks. The leaves as the wind tenderly whispered to them. The touch of the wind upon my face. I couldn't help but recall how God breathed the breath of life into Adam. The wind across my face, His breath...gentle, affectionate, tender. The warmth of the sun...calming. The colors of the water, it's ripples...a movement so precise. The snow covered mountains, the clouds, the groves and crevices of the rock, each one so different...what a design, one that can only be done by the Creator Himself. I also, suddenly realized how small I am within all of His creation, and He loves me no less.
I sat, tears streaming down my face. I looked out across the water, I was unable to tell where it ends. As I looked from side to side, I couldn't tell you where it begins, where it ends. Same with the sky.
Then I heard Him...
If only you could grasp how far, and wide, and long, and deep is my love for you!
16 "In that day," declares the Lord, "you will call me 'my husband'
19 I will betroth you to me forever;
I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.
20 I will betroth you in faithfulness and you will acknowledge the Lord.
I was able to clearly see where the Lord has been while I've wondered in the desert, where He will be in the present and my future. He is right there beside me, He is all around me. His love never fails...He will never leave, nor forsake me.
My alone time with the Lord was coming to an end, I didn't want to leave...It was the most beautiful, romantic, date I have ever experienced. I couldn't help but wonder if the other 169 women experienced something similar. Did you feel it? How He loves us so!
On my way back to small group I found my rock. I wish I had a picture to share with you. For me...the rock is forever embedded in my memory, my touch.
My rock was small, yet quite plump...it size represents how small I am in all of creation, yet so full of love from God. It's plump shape also represented the large amount of burdens I carry as a result of the sins of my past, present, and future, as well as the sins committed against me.
My rock was rough and bumpy with many chips...which represents the many rough and scared areas in my life I held on to, the one's I've let define me. The chips represent the ways God is removing those rough areas, making way for new areas that define me...His child, His bride.
My rock was red on one side and white on the other...for me the red symbolized the blood of Jesus, the ransom He paid to rescue me. The white represents the outcome of the blood He shed for me...Grace, Mercy, Forgiveness, Eternal life with my King! Initially, when I pulled my rock from beneath the soil, all I saw was the reddened area. Imagine my surprise, as I realized the red covered the white, just as Christ sacrifice covers me.
One by one, we returned to our small group. I don't think I came face to face with a single woman who wasn't changed by their alone time with the Lord. Each face radiant, glowing with love.
Session 3: Immeasurably More of His Rest
It's here we were reminded to rest in Him. Cindi said two things that have stuck with me.
1. God wants me (you) to be with Him, not necessarily do things for Him.
He longs for me to spend time in His word. This is where I will get to know Him better. Where I will see Him as the driver, the one in control. It's not about my works, it's about my love for Him...His love for me.
2. The one who loves you the most is waiting right there in front of you.
As soon as she said this, I found myself back at the lake on that rock, romanced and surrounded by His love.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
Session 4: Immeasurably More For Your Life
During this session Cindi spoke about our dreams. She explains that "we are God's unique expression of who He is, designed with His purpose in mind before we were ever created."
There are some great points here, all pointing to our dreams of what/who we want/wanted to be. She explains that our dreams our closely related to what God's plans are for us. Some, have no trouble discovering their dreams. I on the other hand, have no idea. Cindi points out that our dreams can be...
closely connected to our passion
closely connected to our pain
closely connected to our place in life
I feel a little lost...some of my friends know their dreams...
"I've always loved taking pictures, I want to be a photographer."
"I love music, I want to sing...I want to dance...I want to play the piano."
What are my dreams?
I purchased Cindi's book When a Woman Discovers Her Dreams
With prayer for direction and discernment...I'm hoping to discover my dream. The dream that the Lord has placed deep within my heart.
Our weekend closed with communion over the Lake. Where we all took our rocks and toss them into the Lake.
One by one, rocks where tossed into the lake, no longer seen...
Symbolizing, our sins covered by Grace.
To stand upon the dock with 170 other women is indescribable.
Here are a few pictures of the women in my Recovery and Step groups. I hold each and everyone of them very close to my heart. They are truly some of the most beautiful, important people in my life. I can't help but echo the words said by two of them...
"Makes me think of the road we are all walking with each other. Bumps, bruises...Victory and Praises!
"I can't believe how poor I was and how very rich I am now!"
Ladies...I love you from the bottom of my heart. I am forever grateful to the Lord for putting each and everyone of you into my life. I am immeasurably blessed...God is AWESOME!
